It is important to understand the
soul's nature to understand our psyche. Our feelings are
the language of the soul. It is the part of the psyche
that constitutes the driving force in life. The soul's
nature is absolute. Its true nature is love and joy. It
has no ability to think logically. It cannot draw logic
conclusions on its own. We need to use our mental
capacity, our thoughts, in co-operation with the soul to
heal the wounds. Many of us experience again and again
to react irrationally to several situations. Many
people who have anxiety, for example, do not know where
the paralyzing fear comes from. It needs not be as
painful as that. Let’s say, when you meet persons who
is interested in being your partner and you are eager to
meet them again, they are uninterested after a couple of
The irrational wounds come from situations where the
soul has made conclusions without thinking logically.
The soul makes a rule. Often, in these situations the
soul is not willing to listen to the mind's logic until
after a while. Immediately after something terrible
happens, we are not able to work through emotions. We
need distance to the event.
situation where we have a positive intention which leads to a
negative outcome forms a thought pattern I call a Gordian knot. For
example, we do our best with something and look forward to succeed,
and then we fail. What happens is that the soul creates a rule, a
law of the feelings that arise as a result of the incident. For ex:
"When I give by all my heart, people are dissatisfied with me." Or:
"When I am satisfied with myself, there are always someone who turn
against me." Or: "When I am proud that I am clever," the others say
I'm stupid ".
What happens psychologically, is that the soul is repeating these
"laws" as if that's the way it is. Then it becomes so! Thoughts are
creative energy. The soul has its own form of thought which repeats
the pain subconsciously. This causes the soul to repeat creating new
situations, similar to the one that started it all.
An example: Little Lisa 5 years old, is eager and happy
sitting in the sandbox with her boyfriend of the same
age. The two have made roads and houses and used blades,
grass and flowers to create the garden and wooden sticks
to the walls. They are engaged and play continued for
hours without noticing time. Then a big boy comes along.
He has been scolded and is very upset so is he mad at
the world. When he sees the two happy children in the
sandbox he just as well run through their creation with
his bike. Lisa's world collapses, literally. Not only is
their creation destroyed, but Lisa's soul is broken.
When mom comes to fetch her home, Lisa is dissolved in
tears and rages in despair. The mother does as well as
she can and says that they will create a new city in the
sandbox the next day. Lisa calms down.
becomes very quiet and withdraw into herself, because her
soul has concluded: When I am eager and happy to create with
the one I love, a disaster is happening. She cannot put it
into words - she might lock it inside of herself as a deep
grief about life itself.
As you can see, this is an "everyday life event" in an adult's
eyes. Yet it shapes Lisa's life, both in childhood and when she
becomes an adult. Because: Lisa's inner, unconscious mind will
repeat the pain and many more similar emotions that she felt
when the disaster happened. When Lisa later in life is happy and
eager creative with the one she loves, things happens out of the
blue that destroy the idyll. It can happen in her youth, it can
happen repeatedly in her adult life ... And Lisa doesn’t
understand why things in life goes wrong every time she feels
All humans need to learn to understand how these patterns arise.
We all have such patterns in greater or lesser extent. When we
travel back to painful situations, we need to look if they might
contain Gordian knots. When we work to release, both the
positive, good intentions / feelings and the negative outcome
needs to be included in the acceptance sentences. One phrase is
not enough, because usually there are a number of emotions
related to the "catastrophe". When you work with these knots,
you must accept all the feelings carefully, exactly as it was
and then use the technique where we go into the picture to
comfort and love. Forgiveness of those who did such things
against us is important even though we may not even know the
person who caused the pain.
You find another example at the page "The
The secrets of the psyche
Contradiction knots occur when our soul’s nature meets a
different value system. This happens often in 2-4 years of age,
when we adapt our parents’ demands and their perceptions of
parenting. As young children love and joy is the guideline of
life. Many of the things that parents see as obvious are almost
impossible to understand. When we are small children and they
are our parents, they represent love, security and anchoring.
When they present the value systems that contradict our
perception, a contradiction knot occur in our emotions. - If
those who represent the love of your life don’t give you love,
but perhaps are strict and say: "Now, you have to eat your
food!"… and they do not let you play when you are not in the
least hungry… The soul / child asks "why do I need to do that?"
This ends (usually after the rage, grief and despair) in
yielding for our parents because they are big and represent
safety. At the same time as our soul is hurt and feels that "I'm
not good enough the way I am" or "I feel sad because I cannot
make my own decisions". What characterizes a contradiction knot
is that we have emotions related to two value systems, our own
and the system of those who gave us another: "I feel it is my
fault that mom is angry because I don’t want to eat."
Contradiction knots also occur in situations as teenagers or
adults when we feel that other people force on us their value
systems, for ex related to religion or politics.
Emotional pain from
reactions are very
difficult to find out
unless we are willing
to understand that we
have lived before.
Previous lives can
have a profound
impact on our lives.
have been a
Catholic priest or
monk and promised
to live in seclusion
and not managed to
keep the promise
because you fell in love, the memory will
likely be triggered
by something that
when you are young.
ways of thinking from
that life will
affect you in
If you in a
past life experienced
to die from your
children, it will characterize
the relationship to
how you treat your children
in this life. Are you
let then down them,
so you may bind
them to strongly
to you in this life.
always have its roots from events in
past lives. When we
understand what is was about in the origin and see what
trigger it at now-time we can
dissolve it very
Contracts or agreements with ourselves
agreements are more common than we think.
We make them when we repeat to ourselves, "I will never ..."
"I shall never set my foot there more ...".
"He shall be punished ..."
"I am always
When we repeat such things, we may create just what we
Our thoughts are creative and repeated statements creates
Think about it, then you know that this is so and you'll be more
careful with what you say.
Such statements that we tend to say are actually wizards in our inner self.
More examples: "No, I'm so stupid, I can not do such things."
"No, I never manage such things...".
Do you recognize this?
If you find such statements in yourself, you are on the way to
bring up something that is in the unconscious.
recommend using the pendulum and ask whether such negative
statements, the root of a memory.
Because such statements daily shows us the way to what we carry
An example from a client who was afflicted with asthma.
Let's call him Simon.
I have found that problems with the lungs can represent it to
feel sorry for themselves.
It was in this case, a guideline for what I should help him to
find out. He
wanted to quit smoking.
At the same time he said in a side remark that being able to
blame it on asthma when he was not able to walk as far as the
others, suited him well.
Maybe it suits me to be in a convenience zone, he said honestly
It put us on track.
When he went back to the memory, he found himself in the cradle as a
Both parents smoked and at that time, no one thought of paying
attention to the baby.
baby lay in the cradle and felt sorry for himself!
And now he connects with tobacco smoke to feel sorry for
This in itself, this is a phenomenon that I call a link.
Therefore, we discovered that one of the reasons he was unable
to stop smoking, because it was pleasant that the others
would feel sorry for him so he could be in the "convenience
The small child was lying in the cradle and was bothered by his
parents smoke and felt grief and despair that his parents did
not pay attention to him.
Although this was before he could speak, he repeated to himself:
"I feel sorry for myself because I smoke involuntary."
It led to him as a baby to make a contract with himself that says
dissolved the contract in this way:
I realize that I, when I was a baby, made the following deal
with myself: "I feel sorry for myself because I'm involuntary
smoking. I now cancel this contract. The contract is now voided,
this is certain".
You would think that it is enough to realize this, but my
experience is that it is necessary to make it as thorough as
This was a contract made on a subconscious level.
We also contract with ourselves, where we promise ourselves ...
because we judge ourselves or have feelings of guilt, so when
you return to situations where it is the case, feel for, or ask
the pendulum if there are any contracts you need to cancel and
do it the same way as it is done here.
Inger Susaeg, Norway